A quote in the AJC caught my eye a couple of weeks ago, and I’ve continued to ponder this situation as I talk to people about where they are in the midst of all of this. “People find it easier to talk about sex than money,” says Joe Lowrance, a home builder-turned-clinical psychologist who counsels people about their relationship with money. He goes on to say that “our relationship with money is part of our developmental process. … Money is very symbolic. It represents a lot of things – security, power, love, freedom and self-worth.” And yet, we are not as open to talking about this as we are about sex. “More substantial conversations about our relationship with money and the role money plays in our lives are more difficult because of the social prohibition to talk openly and honestly” (“Scaling Down Could Become the New Normal,” The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Sunday, January 24, 2010, p. D3). That’s a shame, I say, because if money really does symbolize things like security, power, love, freedom and self-worth, (which I think it does), we need to be able to talk about it. No wonder so many people get depressed when they lose a job – they have no outlet for dealing with it.
My heart has been heavy as I have been thinking about these issues and the wonderful people who have to suffer for a botched economy that they aren’t completely responsible for. I don’t have the answers, but I do have a heart and good listening ears. So don’t be afraid to come to me and talk about money or your job or worries that neither will last much longer. I’ll at least be talking to God about it on your behalf.